Let’s Chat: Rejection

An open discussion on facing rejection as a small business owner and how you can use it to push you forward. (via Instagram)

Rejection. Woof. The worst.

But there’s no way around it, it’s part of business. You’re going to get rejected, more than once, and from projects you want so bad it hurts. But that doesn’t mean you can’t be successful. And that doesn’t make you less of a person. I know when we feel the sting of rejection our initial thought is to run and hide. In one fell swoop we somehow forget all the good things we’ve ever done.

Even if it doesn’t come through on these blog posts or on my Instagram, I’m no different. Just the other day I was turned down for a project I really wanted. But instead of checking out for the rest of the day and fixating on the bad news, I sent out five more emails that will hopefully evolve into other projects I really want. It’s taken me a long time to get to this point, but I use rejection to drive me. Because letting it hold me back is no longer option. There’s too much to be done.

You too have too much to do. So, here are a few tips for pushing through and picking yourself up:

1. Archive. Get that email out of site as soon as you’re done responding (if necessary). Don’t let those bad vibes linger.

2. Pick one thing to make you happy and do it. Go buy a cupcake. Treat yourself to flowers. Take a 45 minute break to watch an episode of one of your favorite shows. Or this video. It’s okay to take some time out and reflect.

3. Remember, you are not your business. Even though you put your blood, sweat, and tears into your business, it is not who you are as a person. You are not getting rejected, your business just isn’t the best fit for whatever reason.

4. Get moving. Dance, go for a run, walk around the block. Just step away from the computer and get your blood pumping.

5. Make a list. What are other projects you want to work on? Make a list and set those into action.

Rejection is scary and it hurts. But how else are you going to get what you want unless you take that risk and ask?

“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.”– Eleanor Roosevelt

Let’s Chat: Charging What You’re Worth

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It’s been a while since my Let’s Chat column, but man am I so ready for this topic: charging what you’re worth.

I’ve been self employed for over a year now and have learned that it is difficult to ask for what you want in terms of compensation. As a small business owner, not only do you have to assess your worth with a number, but you also have to get someone to agree to it, all while still trying to make rent each month. It’s a vulnerable position to be in, especially when you’re just starting out.

Well friends, it’s tough love time. It’s time to cut the crap and stop holding back. Stop letting nerves determine your success. Stop talking yourself out of what you want in terms of compensation because it makes you nervous, or because you think you’ll lose an opportunity, or that you’ll offend someone. Chances are you won’t, because most situations can be negotiated, or they weren’t going to happen in the first place. How do you expect your business to grow if you aren’t asking for what you need in order to make that happen?

While rejection stings at first, it’s nothing compared to the feeling of defeat from not going after your dreams. And let’s face it, dreams take money. So, with that, here are some ways to pump yourself up:

1. Make a list of everything you have to do to complete what you’re pitching to remind yourself that your time is valuable. It doesn’t hurt to also throw in the cost of materials.

2. Go to your website, and find your favorite project/product that you’ve made. Isn’t it awesome? It is.

3. Dance to an upbeat song.

4. Get a pep talk from a friend. Don’t have a friend? Email me.

5. Let it go. What’s honestly the worst thing that can happen? Now, what’s the best?

Remember: this is your business, nobody can ask for what you want except you. Send that email, and send it proud!

What are your tips for pumping yourself up?


Let’s Chat: Staying Motivated

Comparison is the Thief of Joy by Carrie Waller(image by Carrie Waller of Dream Green DIY)

After your positive responses to my post about creative ruts, I decided that today I’m officially starting the column ‘Let’s Chat’. Each post for this column will be about a certain topic; I’ll share my tips and would love to hear from you in the comments. I think there’s a lot we can learn from one another and I can’t wait! Okay, let’s do this:

Now that the holidays are over, I’m finding it a bit hard getting back into the swing of things. I have big dreams for my business and how I’d like it to grow this year, but the day to day has been ROUGH. Not only am I a bit distracted, but I find myself pushing to-do tasks back a day or two, even though I have the time to do them that day. Of course I think this is just a sign of post vacation blues, but it leads to a bigger question. How do you stay motivated? Here are my tips for staying on track:

1. Give yourself time… and don’t feel guilty. I’ve noticed that after small breaks in the day that I have a natural tendency to get back to it. I know it’s hard not to feel guilty about taking time for yourself when there’s a mountain of work, but it really does help. Even treating myself to a walk mid-day helps me refresh my mind instead of letting it continue to burnout.

2. Actively look for inspiration. Part of being motivated is feeling inspired about the work you’re doing. If you’re hearts not in it, it’s easier to think ‘what’s the point’. Surround yourself with things that inspire you. Go to a museum, buy or make something just for yourself, make an inspiration board. Do whatever keeps those creative juices flowing.

3. Give yourself a pep talk. This may sounds cheesy, but it’s really hard to do work when you feel down about yourself or what you’re doing. Remind yourself why it is you’re doing what you’re doing. If that doesn’t work, instead of looking at anyone else’s work, look back on past work and see how you’ve progressed. You kickass. Know it, own it, get shit done. A little positivity goes a long way.

4. Treat yo self. If all else fails, make a rewards system. Or at least watch this Parks and Rec clip.

What helps you stay motivated?

Let’s Chat : Creative Ruts

Make something art print by Wit & Whistle
(image/print by Wit & Whistle)

This week was full of personal highs and lows, and as per usual, of really amazing projects in my Pinterest feed. Time and time again I’m blown away by the creativity of others and how endless inspiration is at our disposal everyday. But with that also comes comparison and the deep desire to do better. But what do you do when you’re in a creative rut?

It may not come across this way in my posts, but I go through creative ruts quite a bit. In fact, I’m even in one now (yahoo!). The only thing that I’ve found to help is to take a step away from the computer and make something. Whatever it is, even if it sucks, making something with my hands always helps me clear my mind. It helps me start at a place where I feel completely lost and disconnected from what I love and end up (hopefully) in a semi-decent place. It doesn’t happen overnight or after one project, but eventually I’m able to get back into the swing of things and make things I’m actually happy with.

I’d love to hear about your creative process! What do you do to get out of a funk? If all else fails, what’s your go-to cocktail?


On a lighter note, here are a few links to keep you inspired (and hopefully rut free) over the long weekend:

– If you don’t have coasters in your home, or even if you do, you need to make these pronto!

– Resin has been on my must-try list for a while now. After seeing this project, I’m 100% sold.

– Get in my ears, adorable diy earrings.

– Anyone have any spare beakers? I need to make these candles asap.

– You can really do some amazing things with clay.

– Don’t forget! Hello Lidy and I are hosting a flower crown workshop at West Elm in LA (buy your tickets here).